Just before teatime: “Mum can I use the big scissors to cut some paper? please say yes, mum please, just say yes” from my five year-old.
My instinctive response was “No, I’m getting the tea ready now, I can’t let you use the scissors on your own”
But I stopped myself, and said “Yes, let’s cut out one piece now together and then after tea if I’ve time I’ll help you with the rest, otherwise tomorrow for sure”
I’m trying to say Yes to my kids.
Not all the time. Not when the toddler wants the scissors.
That’s a big fat No. Not when the request is going to impact health or wellbeing or safety.
But to those little requests that come from small children every day, often at inconvenient times.
Like “can I have this box to make a rocket?” when I planned to use the box for putting clothes in the attic
Like “can we make ice pops?” when I really need to fold the laundry
Like “can I wear a party dress today please, please, please” even though we’re not going to a party
Like “please can you help me pick out a princess costume to wear for breakfast” when I’m rushing out the door to work
Little requests to which it’s easy to say No, but to which it’s not much harder to say Yes.
And often I still say no – I can’t really say to my boss “sorry I’m late for work, but my daughter simply can’t have breakfast in anything but a princess costume”
So when I can, I bite back my instinctive No before the word leaves my lips, and change it to a Yes.
The look of delight on the little faces make the extra effort worth every second.
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If you’d like more great ideas about how to improve your family life and be happier, I strongly suggest you check out this super post from Bumbles of Rice : The Happiness Project
As well as avoiding saying “no” all the time, I highly recommend the Six Second Hug – this is now a daily event in our house 🙂