I’m delighted to introduce a first ever guest post on Office Mum this week; Kate Gunn is a mother, blogger and freelancer. She spent her 20’s travelling, her 30’s getting married and having babies, and is now hitting her 40’s newly single and back living in her old home town in Co. Wicklow. You can find her at Kate Takes 5 or on Facebook.
I joined the world of motherhood over ten years ago now, and the world of blogging when my eldest had just turned six.
The thing I loved about both new worlds on entering them was the diversity of people involved, and also the levelling of each and every one of them. It doesn’t matter how much money you earn, who you know or what you look like – if your baby hasn’t slept in three months you need someone, anyone, to lean on and talk to.
As a new mum in a new town I desperately reached out for new friends, and before long found myself having a coffee morning with two women – an ex-hollywood actress and a busy nurse who was on maternity leave. The shared journey of motherhood and all that entailed brought us closer in six short months than six years of village acquaintance or office banter could have. In fact, truth be told, I would probably never have met or talked to either of these wonderful women if we had not had babies of the same age.
My entry into the realms of blogging was fairly similar. I joined up – struggling and clueless, but before long I was sharing tips and talks with a middle-aged housewife in Australia and a reluctant housedad in London.
And that is the great thing about life online as a parent. It’s like an extreme version of motherhood and friendship in the real world. We share with each other our frustrations, our fears, our failures and our successes, and we soon come to the realisation that although we are a hugely diverse bunch, deep down we are very alike. There’s an amazing insight into humanity there that we often don’t stop to think about.
Over the past four years of reading and writing blogs, and of joining online groups and forums, I’ve come to know mothers and fathers from all walks of life. Country, status, education, religion are all brushed aside. In any one day online I’m as likely to ask advice from a young mum surviving on benefits in a council estate in Manchester to a ‘yummy mummy’ in London’s Notting hill, and I’ll probably be sharing stories with an office mum in Dublin whilst chatting to a Llama farmer in Offaly.
How wonderful to live our mothering lives in a world as diverse and reachable as that!
So whilst motherhood is often hard, and the internet is in no way a panacea for it’s trials and tribulations – I consider all of us so lucky to have it there at the end of our fingertips.
We just have to remember to press the close button sometimes and visit those real life friends too…
Thanks Kate for guest-posting!